If the abduction phenomena were a part of our spiritual and societal paradigm, being abducted might be sought out by some, and the abduction process might be one of anticipation and joy, rather than dread.
Societal norms, those things deemed valid or invalid, real or not real by our society, are something that we all, whether consciously or not, adhere to, with regard to our thought process. The emotional pain and turmoil created from our abduction experience, is a result of the fact that our society has no place for our experiences whatsoever. If that were not the case, that is to say, if our society saw our experiences as valid, normal, and/or commonplace, the trauma that most experience as a result of their abductions, would not exist.
Simply put, this emotional pain that we as Contactees feel, is as a result of our trying to categorize and explain something what our society views as not being valid or real, and in the process attempting to make it somehow fit within our individual belief system.
Ultimately, each of us is forced to stand up and say; “wait a minute, I’m not crazy, this was a real and valid experience that I have had, whether or not it fits into what society says is acceptable, and, whether or not it fits into my current belief system”.
From there, we all need, or are required, really, to integrate our experiences into our belief system.
Naturally, the world doesn’t provide a template for us to do this, but then again, maybe forums such as this one are our templates.